10 Reasons why I’m Unmosqued

 

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Unmosqued” is a documentary film covering how Muslims in the US stop coming to mosques, especially the youth. I haven’t seen the documentary because it keeps getting screened at mosques – this irony alone speaks volumes of mosques’ disconnect.

Many cite masjid politics or control freak “uncles”. as the reason why people stop coming to the masjids. However, here are the reasons why many of us don’t:

1- Most of them are influenced by Saudi propaganda and Salafi poison.

2- Not enough room for women and no accommodation for children.

3- Demotivating and uninspiring imams and preachers. Even the rockstar ISNA preachers seem to have more time for Facebook and Twitter than actually dealing with real community issues.

4- Imams and preachers who are not approachable.

5- No spiritual experience. It’s mostly about mechanics of prayer or potluck or a speech about a topic we’ve heard a million times.

6- No where to park.

7- Even if you find a place to park, some “brother” blocks your car and you’ll get late for work.

8- Youth gathering events are more like speed-dating events.

9- Closed and locked doors (needs no explanation). Has an operating hour like a coffee shop!

10- Majority of mosques in the US are poisoned enough by Salafi hate that minority Muslims such as Shias and Sufis can’t go without getting harassed.

15 responses to “10 Reasons why I’m Unmosqued

  1. MashaAllah, thank you for writing this. I can very much relate.

  2. I feel related. I am unmosqued too for many of the reasons you mention being the nº1, my nº1. I created my own association to develop the kind of community I like to be in. Warms regards. Salaam

  3. I never went back to taraweeh after I was talk that women should not wear trousers. I was wearing incredibly baggy black linen trousers which looked more like a long skirt and my other friend was wearing jeans – she is born Muslim and this was her first ever time attending taraweeh at the age of 19. She hasn’t been back since either. I do sometimes try to make an effort and attend Friday prayers but my local mosque is mostly South Asian older women and they stare me out and make me feel very uncomfortable so it just isn’t worth it.

  4. As-Salaam Alaikum,
    If you go to the Masjid to worship Allah, all of the reasons for not going are irrelevant. Your response to the challenges you face is relevant. You can worship at home, and alone; however Allah says congregational prayer is better. Allah speaks the truth, and you are answerable only to Him, so rely on your reasons for not doing as He suggests or rely on Him.

    We also made one room in our home a musella, and when two or more people join us, we hold Jumu’ah Prayer at home. Alhamdulillah!

    Peace,
    Bilal Yasin El-Amin

    • Bilal, thank you for the comment. Sometimes I wonder if my prayers are accepted in an establishment that lies against other Muslims and excludes them, specially a “mosque” that creates division, fitna, and hatred.

  5. So what you going to do or just complain, get started and defending your right.

  6. What a bunch of cry babies. Nothing’s perfect in the dunya. Yes the mosques have problems, but, there is also beauty and peace if you focus on God. It’s God’s house, and if you refuse to go because of such trivial reasons, that’s so sad. So sad. Go there for Allah’s pleasure. That’s all that matters. Save perfection for the next life. And if you’re really upset, stop winning, and do something!

    • Lara, although you make good points, not all mosques are the same. Remember Masjid-al-Dhirar that was destroyed by our prophet. Unfortunately, I feel (and I could be wrong) that many mosques in the US divide communities instead of unite which is what Masjid-al-Dhirar was established to do.

  7. Alaikum As-Salaam,

    Prayers are from your heart and not from the establishment in which you prayed. Allah, Most High, sees and knows all, including conditions of our hearts and our establishments. The term ‘unmosqued’ seems to be a westernized concept to make not attending congregational prayer and individualism acceptable. Allah, Most High, judges us individually on how we work together in community life. Community life is the foundation of Al-Islam. Our Prophet (peace be upon him) established community life as example for us. If we do not stand together we will fall apart.

    We must forgive and overlook some things, as we expect Allah, Most Merciful, to forgive us, and as our Prophet did. Associate with those who disturb, offend or upset you in order to influence them with your excellent example of how a Muslim should be. Our Prophet did that, and he is the best example, the best of all creation. Focus on his example, copy his habits and pay less attention to the shortcomings and fallacies of others.

    Also, try hard to improve yourself before pointing out shortcomings of others. All of these reasons for being ‘unmosqued’ are superficial. If the writer reflects deeper into his/her own commitment to Al-Islam, or lack thereof, the real reasons will be found, and ‘unmosqued’ would disappear as a word and never grow as a concept.

    Peace,
    Bilal Yasin El-Amin

  8. Felipe Shannon

    As Salamu Aleiykum

    I Would like to share two dialogues of the Prophet Muhammad (may the blessings And peace of Allāh be upun him).

    Abdullāh ibn Umar (may Allāh be pleased with him) reported: The messenger of Allah (sal Allāhu alayhi wa Salam) said: “Salat(1) in congregation is twenty-seven times more meritorious than a salat performed individually.”

    (1) Salat
    (Al Bukhari and Muslim)

    The Prophet (May the blessings and peace of Allāh be upun him) said: “Envy is permitted only in two cases: of a man whom Allāh gives wealth, and he disposes of it rightfully, and a man whom Allāh gives knowledge and he applies and teaches it.”

    (Al Bukhari)

  9. Felipe Shannon

    As Salamu aleiykum

    I Would like to share two dialogues of the Prophet Muhammad (may the blessings And peace of Allāh be upun him).

    Abdullāh ibn Umar (may Allāh be pleased with him) reported: The messenger of Allah (sal Allāhu alayhi wa Salam) said: “Salat(1) in congregation is twenty-seven times more meritorious than a salat performed individually.”

    (1) Salat
    (Al Bukhari and Muslim)

    The Prophet (May the blessings and peace of Allāh be upun him) said: “Envy is permitted only in two cases: of a man whom Allāh gives wealth, and he disposes of it rightfully, and a man whom Allāh gives knowledge and he applies and teaches it.”

    (Al Bukhari)

  10. Yes indeed Salat in congregation is rewarding. The question is: is Allah (the exalted) accepting these congregation prayers from us? When a masjid is established and managed for ego, for dividing Muslims, for hate, and for worldly gains … it’s a different story.

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